If we examine the psyche; it is divided into two opposite parts, the Conscious mind, and the Unconscious mind. Our mind, because its job is to process information, is very analogous to a computer. The Conscious mind is like RAM, a reuseable working memory with a limited capacity. Our Unconscious mind, is like both a hard drive (stores memory) but also, ouroperating system.
Our personality, or sense of self, is far more our unconscious mind, than we would like to admit. Our mind is a complex web of cognitive structures (programs) each with a univariable task. This means each program can only analyze one subject. If you ask the part of you that is hungry, it will tell you to spend you last $25 on pizza, if you as the budget part of you, it will tell you that starving yourself will save money. Both have to work together to arrive at a balanced conclusion.
Self Reflection is like restart, defraging, disk cleaning, and virus scanning our mind. It gives us a view into all our background process, and allows us to pick and choose what aspects ourselves we leave running in our unconscious.
“Well this all sounds great Darryl, but how do I put this into practical terms?” Don’t worry my friends, I would not leave you hanging. Below are five basic elements to making getting to know yourself a part of your daily life.
Just like waking up, going to work, and watching our favourite shows, we need to make time for self reflection. Any time you want, pick a 30 min block of time to check in with yourself. Time by ourselves is the first step to turning inward.
Just like we nerd to make time for self reflection, we must create a space for it. Pick a location that is comfrtable, quiet, away from distractions(phones, tv, video games, talking). And a place where people around you know is you private space.
Have an intention or clear reason. Ask yourself questions. Is it an emotion, a thought, what does this mean to me? Why does this bother me? Why did I act that way, or say those thing? Remember you have to challenge your own answers. Our unconscious minds job is also to hide unfaceable things for our awareness.
Find a method that works for you. Meditation, prayer, journaling, running, sitting on a beach. It doesn’t matter what your method is. It only matters that it works and that you do it.
Just because we realize something, doesn’t mean we know how to live it. Create a way to remind yourself to practice what you realized. Affirmations, goals, catch phrases, mantra’s, lists. Again it doesn’t matter what you do as long as it works and that you do it. Our habits will come back hundreds of times before we master them. So leave yourself a bread crumb trail back to the changes you wish to make.
Until next week. I wish you well as you travel on your journey to self discovery.😍😍😍😍